I sent out 27 birthday party invitations...only three people r.s.v.p. 'd!!!?

Teresa

They are mostly in-laws and they are people that mostly I do not even know!! I was given a list of addresses and sent them with specific instructions to r.s.v.p. via phone, text email...and included all my info!!! Only three people responded!! I gave them a month and the r.s.v.p. date is 2 weeks before the party!! What do i do?? And isn't that kinda rude to not respond?? (they are in-laws and Korean, but surely they speak English!) It is for my son's first birthday party! Which is a big deal for Korean culture. I'm kinda upset about it...do i assume they are coming? Or not coming?? I need to know so i can tell the restaurant it is being held at.
They are not strangers. They are in-laws!! I have met them like a few times.
It was very clear and i made it very easy for them!

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you can't impose an obligation on a third party , I would guess your invitation was not clear , the alternative is that nobody likes you or cares about a 1st birthday, if you want responses from strangers you need to enclose a reply form and a prepaid envelope

I'm having a birthday party and I don't know what games to play?

Abby Alder

So for my 15th birthday party we rented a hotel!! We already sent out invitations and booked the room, but we don't know what games to play?? There will be 8 girls in one room so the games can't be too loud. Any ideas?? Thanks!!

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I was looking for a similar question that I had started to reply (forgot to put on watchlist before shutting down), and of course, most times its absolutely impossible to find again (most times?? always impossible for me!), so when I saw your question, I brought it up.

Seeing only one answer, and how the person responded, I really wanted to try and give you some ideas.

I have 3 daughters that are now grown, but all their birthday parties were done in our home with lots of games that completely wore me out, but much fun for the kids. They were each born in September, so it made for a busy month. Yet due to a tragedy that happened, our teen parties were limited.

Therefore, I called each of my 2 younger daughters for suggestions, and they both responded with the same two games. Apples to Apples is an awesome game that is good for all ages. The more people there are, the more fun it can be. You may already be familiar with it, or most likely at least one of your guests will have heard of it, and/or may even have the game. If not, a purchase will be needed to play this game (Target or maybe Walmart). It comes in a smaller size and a deluxe size which is what your party would really need to keep the fun going.

The 2nd game they each brought up (separate phone calls to them), was Guesstures. I have played Apples to Apples a few times, but haven' played Guesstures, although, every time my kids come to visit me they bring it (I moved to another state a few years ago), we just haven't got to it yet.

There is a game I made up back in the 70's (yes, I'm old - lol), and have continued to use it many times over the years, and can be designed for all ages and different events. Late last night I put my creative juices to work and wrote it all out. However, due to my time being restricted today, I will have to type it up later tonight, because it will take some time, as I will provide everything, and the best thing is, you don't have to spend any money to play it! I am waiting for a ride to go to Phoenix (2 hrs away from my home), so until she comes... Also, feel free to contact me, or have your mom contact me.

I have a few other ideas that I made up and used successfully several times. I'm the type of person that can't do anything simple. For example, when my daughter turned 21, her husband to be, took her to her favorite restaurant. In my mind, I thought, ok that's cool, but after all, she is turning 21. So without even telling him, I went to work creating it to be a night she would always remember. I was there to make it all happen, but she never saw me. I involved the customers, young & old that were going into the restaurant. Its easy to find strangers to help for a minute of their time, because they think its funny & they have fun with it. Even the people seated at other tables were laughing as they watched it all play out. Restaurant managers like it (I've done a variety of things as other places, at times not having to use others, yet they were always watching), its free advertising, because it causes customers involved and the ones who watched it, to talk about it later.

Before I became a housewife, I was the Corporate Meeting & Special Events Planner for an international software company. I had been promoted to this position from a field office in another state, because of the local seminars I had coordinated, and the office parties I created for birthdays, anniversaries, promotions, good-byes, etc.

My ride came a few minutes ago. I hope I haven't bored you, but I think I'm becoming one of those elderly ladies that at times, I would try to avoid because they talked your ears off! Now here I am...

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Ideas for a Tinkerbell birthday party for a 5 year old???

Kimberly M

My daughter is turning 5 soon and said she wants a Tinkerbell party. She said she wants a "total Tinkerbell" party, with everything Tinkerbell. I have seen the supplies for goody bags and the paper goods at Wal-Mart and those are cute, but I need some more ideas. Are there any games or activities you can think of that will tie in with the Tinkerbell theme? Any ideas or suggestions will be greatly appreciated!! Thanks!!
also if you have any cool gift ideas please list those as well!

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Invitations
A cool child birthday party idea for fairy invitations is to take a rectangular piece of paper (so that the long side is horizontal to you) and fold in both of the sides to the middle so it looks like a gate. On the outside write something like: "Take a peek through the garden gate". Then on the inside put lots of fairy and butterfly stickers peeking out through holes you've cut in the gate itself.
Inside you can write: "The garden fairies have gathered to celebrate a special day for a great little fairy" (and add her name and age). "Please come join the fairybration".

Another Tinkerbell child birthday party idea for an invitation is to cut out magical wands (a long rectangle for the stick and a star for the top of the wand). Using a silver gel pen, or any other nice pen, you can write this poem on the rectangular paper before rolling it up:
"Far, far away, in a magical place, sits a small little fairy, with her soft smiling face. She waits for her friends, in the warm summer sun; won't you come on (date of the party) to join the fun? With fun foods to eat, and fun games to play, your arrival at (time of the party) will make (kid's name's) day. She anxiously waits, as each day passes by, while her fairy parents await your reply" (and then write RSVP and your phone #).

You can also write that all the fairies come dressed in their fairy best - and boys in their pixie best. Don't forget to add a lot of fairy dust (glitter and confetti), and possibly fairy stickers to the invitation (you can also enclose fairy tattoos).

The color scheme for this Tinkerbell party is pink, purple and chartreuse.
Use a large amount of balloons and streamers. Cover your table with a matching table cloth or a pink sheet. Scatter pink, purple and chartreuse sequins all around the table. Run a long piece of pink or green nylon glitter netting (craft or fabric store) down the center. Make a centerpiece with a weighted bouquet of balloons, inserted into Tinkerbell Gift bag Cover the birthday girls' chair with nylon netting and ribbons.
Advanced decorations: Turn you home into Neverland with butcher paper , poster paints, fabric draped furniture etc.
To save time, enlist an artistic teenager to paint the scenery ;trees, flowers, mermaid Lagoon, Capt. Hook's Ship....etc.
The Tinkerbell party begins...
Upon arrival, adorn each guest with Tinkerbell magic dust.
Make the magic fairy dust before the party by mixing very fine polyester glitter and aloe-vera gel. Apply a small amount to the girls cheeks.

Tinkerbell Tag
Play this game just like "Freeze Tag".
Give each player a small pouch of glitter before playing.
One player will be "it". When you say "GO" the girls run from "IT".
If she tags a player, that player is frozen until another player sprinkles fairy dust on her. Make sure that each player has a turn to be "it"
and that each round does not take too long.

Stick the Star on Tinkerbell's Wand
"Oh-No", Tinkerbell's magic wand is broken and the players must repair it!
This game is played just like Pin-the-tail-on-the-Donkey.
Use poster board to make the game board and cardstock to make stars.
Draw a simple wand on the poster board, without the star on the end.
Add some glitter and other decorations if you choose.
Use double stick tape on one side of the stars and write the players
names on the other side. Use a satin sash to blindfold the players,
one at a time. Spin her gently three times and "steer" her in
the correct direction to the game board. The player will try to stick the star near the tip of the wand. The players who's star is nearest ...wins!
TIP: Young players may not want to be blindfolded and they can just close their eyes.

Tinkerbell Takes the Lead
You will need one pair of Tinkerbell Fairy wings for this game.
this is really just a game of Follow the Leader. One player wears the wings while the rest of the players follow her every action in a single file line.
Players will take turns leading as Tinkerbell.

Make a Fairy Wand
Use small dowel pieces, craft foam, glitter glue, very thin ribbon
and a hot glue gun (ADULT ONLY).

Before the party, paint all of the dowel pieces with silver spray paint
and cut the craft foam stars. You may be able to find pre-cut stars at your craft store. At party time the girls will decorate the stars with glitter glue. Attach the stars to the wands with the hot glue gun.
Then then the girls, with help can tie pieces of ribbon to their wands
for extra ornamentation.

Tinkerbell Craft
This is best for parties of 6 children or smaller.

You'll need:
White coffee filter, green food coloring, wooden craft clothes pins,
fine tipped craft pens, yellow yarn, medicine dropper.
Before the party, paint the clothes pins with white spray paint.
Flatten the coffee filters to make circles.
Cover the work area.
Mix the green food color with water in a few bowls.
The children will use the medicine dropper to drop green color onto
the coffee filters. It doesn't take very much, as the color will spread.
While the filter is drying. Help the girls cut small amounts of yellow
yarn and glue it to the top of the clothespin (Tink's Hair).
Use the craft pens to make faces on the head of the clothes pin.
Then "scrunch-up" the dry green coffee filter and insert it in the
clothespin to make Tinkerbell's Wings.
To make this craft even easier...paint the clothes pins green before
the party and use the white coffee filters with out the green food color.
This will make Tinkerbell's body green and the wing's white.
Tips: ask an adult to help you dry the coffee filters with a hair dryer
to speed things along. You may want to make this craft with smaller clothes pins and use yarn to make a necklace.

Easy to Make Tinkerbell Birthday Cupcakes
Add food coloring to white cake batter making light green or pink cupcakes.
Frost with white frosting. Sprinkle "Pixie Dust" (colored sugar) on each cupcake and insert a Tinkerbell cupcake pick into each one.

Tinkerbell Child Birthday Party Idea for Drinks:
*Fairy fizz - Place a full glass of red punch in front of each guest and add some fairy dust (a few Pop Rocks candies) to each cup. The kids just love it when the candy crackles, pops, and splits when it comes into contact with the liquid.
*Sparkling apple cider (you can pour it into disposable plastic wine glasses and let the kids decorate the glasses with jewels, sequins, glitter etc. beforehand)
*Fairy punch (raspberry sherbet and Sprite)
*Pink lemonade
*Strawberry tea (If you want to add more of that strawberry taste to your strawberry tea, do the following: make half a pot of strawberry tea with three bags, let it steep a bit and then add a few drops of strawberry extract and three or four drops of red coloring. Then add milk and sugar to taste)

Tinkerbell Child Birthday Party Idea for Treats:

*Magic wands (pretzel rods dipped in white chocolate and sprinkled with star-shaped decorations or just plain sprinkles)
*Fresh-fruit wands (take wooden steak skewers and put grapes, strawberries, and other cut fruit on them and at the top put a melon cut into the shape of a star using a star-shaped cookie cutter).
*Chocolate-covered Fruit (melt good-quality white, milk or dark chocolate in the microwave until you can stir it smooth. Dip strawberries, grapes, and orange slices halfway into the melted chocolate. Lay them on wax paper and let them cool a couple of hours. Once cool, gently peel off the wax paper and serve on a fancy plate.)
*Heart-shaped or star-shaped rice crispy treat wands (you can add a stick in them to look like wands; also you can dip in chocolate and add sprinkles for more of the wand effect)
*Magic gems (A bowl of pastel colored jelly beans, skittles, etc.)
*Cotton candy wands
*Marshmallow wands
*Fairy dust (pixie sticks)

Party Favors

If you want to fill your own, a cool child birthday party ideas is to put fairy dust (pixie sticks), fairy stickers and tattoos, wands, bubbles, ring suckers, stick on earrings, plastic jewelry, all kinds of bracelets, jewels, hair accessories, ring-pops, magical wands, body glitter, fairy stickers, stick-on earrings and a whole lot of other cool fairy trinkets.
(For the boys you can prepare pirate favors in little treasure boxes or in bandana. Fill them with skull pops, golden chocolate coins, a compass, gem pop rings, candy necklaces, tattoos, gold chocolate coins, small telescopes, skull key chains, skull pencils, etc.)

Here is a link for possible Tink presents: http://disneyshopping.go.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/CategoryDisplay?catalogId=10002&storeId=10051&categoryId=14733&langId=-1&N=0&Ntk=p_categoryID&Ntt=14733&Nu=p_productID

Good luck and best birthday wishes!

13 th birthday party?

heyy im throwing a 13th birthday party for my cousin have you got any suggestions what she could do please reply thanks

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Here's a few options for you to consider for your cousin's 13th birthday party:

SLUMBER PARTY WITH A THEME
Decide upon a theme and then create your invitations, decorations, and activities to coincide with that theme.

Campout Sleepover
Make sleeping bag invitations. Use glow in the dark stars and moons and lots of flashlights. Make s'mores. Flashlight treasure hunt.

Makeover Party
Give each other manicures, pedicures, and facials. Watch some girlie girl movies.

Hollywood Party
Create some invitations to look like theater tickets. Hang up movie posters, line your walkway with a red plastic tablecloth to create the red carpet. Have everyone come dressed like their favorite celebrity. Watch your favorite movies.

A NIGHT UNDER THE STARS
Make star-shaped invitations. Decorate with black and silver or black and gold balloons, streamers, and table decor. Hang glow in the dark stars and moons from ceiling. Have a telescope available for star-gazing.

A BLAST TO THE PAST
Select an era like the 50's, 60's, 70's, or 80's and design your party around that era.

50's Party
Make invitations look like 45 records. Use black and hot pink as your party colors and hang lots of balloons and twisted streamers. Throw in some 1950's toy cars as decor. Have girls wear poodle skirts and oxfords and boys wear bowling shirts or preppy sweaters and glasses. Watch I love Lucy DVD's, have a sock hop, and hula hoop contests.

60's Party
Have everyone wear bell-bottom pants and tie-dyed t-shirts, along with love beads. Make peace symbol invitations and hang balloons and streamers in all the psychadelic colors. Add a lava lamp or two. Make daisy chains and create tie-dyed t-shirts.

Well, there's a few ideas to help get your creative juices flowing. Hope your cousin has a great day!

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How can I have a really good mixed gender 12th birthday party? themes?

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Valere H

my bday is in the begeening of april and i am turning 12. I want to have a really cool/fun mixed gender birthday party. what themes, or what should i do 4 it? plz reply soon!

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Hollywood party
Hawain Luau party
Mall scavenger hunt party
picture scavenger hunt party
Holly wood party/red carpet party
Send the invitations out on star shaped black card stock with gold glitter decorating it. Be sure to tell everyone to dress up formal. For decorations have a red carpet, streamers, and gold and silver helium balloons. Get some people to be the "paparazzi" to take pictures and ask for autographs. Have finger food for dinner and a star shaped cake for dessert.
Hawain Luau- Make invintations out of beach balls then deflate and hand them out, as a message in a bottle, or a plane ticket to hawaii Have everyone dress up hawain. Lei's (thouse flower necklaces), bathing suites with grass skirts etc.
Have pina coladas and tropical fruit (mango, pinapple etc.), hawwain pizza
decorate with fish nets, shells, and paper fish.
your party favor can be sunglasses, lei, sunscreen, and some cheap dollar store towels

for the mall scavenger hunt have eeveryone get into partners. Give each pair a list with all the stores they have to find. each pair then has to go anound the mall and get something to represent each store (bag, tag, picture, flyer etc.)

for the photo scavenger hunt divide into two teams. Each team will need a digital camra. Give each team a list of things they need to take a picture of (the whole team making a pyramid, at a certain store, everyone's shoes, etc.)

Or you could have a pool party, go bolwing, BBQ
here are some websites-
www.teenpartyideas.com
http://www.birthdaypartyideas.com/html/party_ideas.html
http://www.birthdayinabox.com/party-ideas/guides.asp?bgs=43

Have FUN!!! V

College Graduation Facebook Invitation Etiquette - How do we decline and is a gift necessary?

Leah

My Aunt has invited us to another gathering for another one of her kids hoping for money or gifts, yet again. (She has 5 kids, 4 are adults and one has married and moved out.) This gathering happens to be for my cousin who is only a couple years younger than me. She graduated with a psychology degree from an online school and so her mom is throwing her a graduation party. The invites were through a Facebook invitation event but it's a super huge deal and everyone she knows is invited. I was under the impression that the huge graduation open houses ended after high school and that the college graduation celebrations were more immediate or supportive family and close friends.

Even though they are adults, my aunt throws each offspring birthday parties, graduation parties and other stuff. Even though we are all around the same age, my brother and I are considered separate units because we have both married and have both moved out from the parental units. So their unit of 6 send out Christmas cards and gifts together while my family has to send out 3 different sets for each person for each function because we have technically moved out and are our own families. Also, the kids are very ungrateful. In the past each kid has gotten a gift for these random parties and the Mom is the one to thank us. And when we showed up to this particular cousin's 21st birthday she ignored us and was rude to the people who she did talk to.

So putting aside their tackiness and rude behavior, what is the proper etiquette for all of us to decline this invite? Can my parents, my family and my brother's family go together with one "Congratulations" card even though we don't live together? Again, we're all around the same age as the cousins. Should money be put in it from all of us, even though they have a couple parties a year expecting money while we keep our graduations and birthdays within our immediate family?

Or do each of our family units send a "Congrats" card? And do we each put in money/gift yet again?

OR can we just decline the Facebook event with an apology, no cards, and no money sent?

Telling them to "shove it" sounds justified but I'm hoping for something closer to proper etiquette. Thanks!

Answer
This does all sound a bit much.

I take it your family are all of the same mind about this -- i.e. none of you particularly wants to go to this thing, let alone shell out yet more money; you're all a bit fed up of the constant gatherings, etc?

I see no reason whatsoever for money or other gifts to be given for a graduation for someone over the age of 21, particularly for some qualification gained from an online school. Perhaps I'm doing your cousin an injustice -- is it a proper Bachelor of Sciences degree?

I think it would be fine for just a card to be sent. I suppose she should really get 3 cards from each "unit", unless your parents wrote one on behalf of the whole family. You do need to reply to the invitation to the gathering, but a polite note on the card(s) regretting you will all be unable to be present would be okay.

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Is it appropriate for a family member to host minor child's birthday without discussing with parent?

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Mom of 4

My husband and I received an invitation to our daughter's (his biological, my step daughter) 9th birthday party from my husband's sister. She never even called us and asked if we were doing something or if we minded her hosting a party. His sister made arrangements to spend the day with our daughter during her bio mom's weekend as to secure the time with our daughter without us knowing. Is it appropriate and how would you reply?

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No, that is inappropriate. She should have discussed this with you and your husband.

How soon after invites are sent out should you start calling guests for their RSVP?

Karen

We sent out invitations for our son's first birthday party about 3 weeks ago. We haven't heard back yet from about 1/3 of the guests. The party is in a month. How much longer should I wait for a reply? When can I start calling those who haven't gotten back to us yet?

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You do not call for R.S.V.P.s. The purpose of sending an R.S.V.P. is to have your guests call you, not the other way around.

If you've heard no reply - oh, I'd say a week - before a child's birthday party, then you might call some of the guests with whom you are close and chat for a little while. Casually mention the party, and if they tell you they are coming...you'll know. If they don't mention it...you've done all you are etiquette-instructed to do.

I understand that this is probably a less-than-formal affair since it is for a small child, and the formal rules of etiquette can be bent a little. But still to call and ask for a response is not polite. You might consider emailing a "reminder" note to those guests from whom you've not heard. Not a reminder that they've not sent their R.S.V.P., but rather a reminder for the party. This is not a request for a response on attendance, simply an addition to the invitation. That would be entirely correct.

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Should i still invite a birthday invitation to a person who no longer is replying my emails?

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Indoors

but THROUGH WHOM i know a few people whom i would really like to invite?

Also, if i don't invite this unresponsive person, morally i am also obliged to NOT inviting his friends, whom i met though him and would like to know them better?

also, please keep in mind i don't want to appear like a pushy sleazeball and keep pushing when a person is clearly not interested in being friends.

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I would not invite them. If they are no longer replying to your e-mails it sounds like they are no longer interested in being freinds and are trying to distance themselves from you, to cut you out of their life. I'd doubt they'd want to attend your birthday party anyway.

How do I deal with a friend who is developing a crush because I gave gifts for her birthday?

sugar1973

And is it too much to give a friend of a couple years a bday gift? I've had some male friends think this way. I used to think I gave gifts early into a relationship. Maybe I was looking to please people. But I have changed--I'm generous but I'm not attached to what I give to people. It's usually for birthdays. Recently a female friend started crushing on me (I'm straight), and thinks because I gave her birthday gifts--simple ones, like wine, candles, soap--that I must like her. Are these people who aren't used to getting gifts misconstruing that gesture as "love interest"? I am a generous person. A lot of my friends don't even bring gifts to bday parties. Should I just stick to giving a card to avoid needy people like this? Even my birthday card, this girl was hanging on to my every word. It was pretty generic what I wrote and I wrote "Love, (my name)".
She admitted she has a crush on me. Her behavior made me uncomfortable. I tried not seeing her for a while to diffuse her feelings, but I felt I had to at least attend her bday party. I gave a card and mentioned I bought a gift but I forgot it in the car. The rest of the evening was uncomfortable because her feelings started acting up again.

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I agree with June. How do you know she has a crush on you?

Whether she has a crush on you or simply likes you as a friend, you need to be aware that it is perfectly normal for people to think you like them if you give them birthday gifts.

It is not "needy" to want to be friends with someone who has given a gift because gifts show friendship. You may not see gifts this way, but pretty much everyone else does.

In answer to your question, I wouldn't even give a card in future if you don't want to be friends with a person.

Finally, if it turns out this woman DOES have a crush on you, then be compassionate. Say you're straight. Don't make a big deal out of it. Step back--at least temporarily--to give her an opportunity to get over her feelings. Good luck.

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Now I understand...

Well, you did nothing wrong by going to the party. It isn't the gift that is the problem here. It is that she is not over her crush on you. So I'd step back again.

This kind of thing is annoying and difficult to handle. Although I believe in being compassionate and relaxed when dealing with unwanted crushes, I also think that she crossed a line if she approached you while knowing that you're straight. I'm not saying she is crazy or that you should worry... Just that she may have trouble with boundaries and you should take extra care.

I would avoid doing anything that could be construed by her as a sign that you return her feelings. Don't accept her invitations to anything. If you do find yourself at an event that she's at, focus on other people. Not to be mean, but to avoid giving her any hope.

If she approaches you again, say briefly (so the message gets through) and calmly, "I'm straight. I'm sorry, but I'm not interested."

Let's hope she meets someone else soon. If any of her friends already know about this situation (don't tell anyone if they don't know because this might humiliate her), encourage them to take her out to meet other people.

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How do I deal with a friend who is developing a crush because I gave gifts for her birthday?

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sugar1973

And is it too much to give a friend of a couple years a bday gift? I've had some male friends think this way. I used to think I gave gifts early into a relationship. Maybe I was looking to please people. But I have changed--I'm generous but I'm not attached to what I give to people. It's usually for birthdays. Recently a female friend started crushing on me (I'm straight), and thinks because I gave her birthday gifts--simple ones, like wine, candles, soap--that I must like her. Are these people who aren't used to getting gifts misconstruing that gesture as "love interest"? I am a generous person. A lot of my friends don't even bring gifts to bday parties. Should I just stick to giving a card to avoid needy people like this? Even my birthday card, this girl was hanging on to my every word. It was pretty generic what I wrote and I wrote "Love, (my name)".
She admitted she has a crush on me. Her behavior made me uncomfortable. I tried not seeing her for a while to diffuse her feelings, but I felt I had to at least attend her bday party. I gave a card and mentioned I bought a gift but I forgot it in the car. The rest of the evening was uncomfortable because her feelings started acting up again.

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I agree with June. How do you know she has a crush on you?

Whether she has a crush on you or simply likes you as a friend, you need to be aware that it is perfectly normal for people to think you like them if you give them birthday gifts.

It is not "needy" to want to be friends with someone who has given a gift because gifts show friendship. You may not see gifts this way, but pretty much everyone else does.

In answer to your question, I wouldn't even give a card in future if you don't want to be friends with a person.

Finally, if it turns out this woman DOES have a crush on you, then be compassionate. Say you're straight. Don't make a big deal out of it. Step back--at least temporarily--to give her an opportunity to get over her feelings. Good luck.

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Reply:
Now I understand...

Well, you did nothing wrong by going to the party. It isn't the gift that is the problem here. It is that she is not over her crush on you. So I'd step back again.

This kind of thing is annoying and difficult to handle. Although I believe in being compassionate and relaxed when dealing with unwanted crushes, I also think that she crossed a line if she approached you while knowing that you're straight. I'm not saying she is crazy or that you should worry... Just that she may have trouble with boundaries and you should take extra care.

I would avoid doing anything that could be construed by her as a sign that you return her feelings. Don't accept her invitations to anything. If you do find yourself at an event that she's at, focus on other people. Not to be mean, but to avoid giving her any hope.

If she approaches you again, say briefly (so the message gets through) and calmly, "I'm straight. I'm sorry, but I'm not interested."

Let's hope she meets someone else soon. If any of her friends already know about this situation (don't tell anyone if they don't know because this might humiliate her), encourage them to take her out to meet other people.

How long does it usually take for parents to RSVP for your child's birthday?

Q. My son is turning 6 and this is the first time I have invited his whole class to his birthday. I don't expect for everyone to come but I gave the invitations out to 28 kids over 3 days ago and have not got one reply. They still have 5 days to RSVP so I was just wondering what other parents experience is with how long it takes. Thank you:)

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It depends.My little brother had a slumber party,but we didn't get any RSVPs until the very night before it.Some people didn't even bother to :pSince there's five days until,you probably won't get any RSVPs for one or two more days.

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Is it appropriate for a family member to host minor child's birthday without discussing with parent?

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Mom of 4

My husband and I received an invitation to our daughter's (his biological, my step daughter) 9th birthday party from my husband's sister. She never even called us and asked if we were doing something or if we minded her hosting a party. His sister made arrangements to spend the day with our daughter during her bio mom's weekend as to secure the time with our daughter without us knowing. Is it appropriate and how would you reply?

Answer
No, that is inappropriate. She should have discussed this with you and your husband.

How soon after invites are sent out should you start calling guests for their RSVP?

Karen

We sent out invitations for our son's first birthday party about 3 weeks ago. We haven't heard back yet from about 1/3 of the guests. The party is in a month. How much longer should I wait for a reply? When can I start calling those who haven't gotten back to us yet?

Answer
You do not call for R.S.V.P.s. The purpose of sending an R.S.V.P. is to have your guests call you, not the other way around.

If you've heard no reply - oh, I'd say a week - before a child's birthday party, then you might call some of the guests with whom you are close and chat for a little while. Casually mention the party, and if they tell you they are coming...you'll know. If they don't mention it...you've done all you are etiquette-instructed to do.

I understand that this is probably a less-than-formal affair since it is for a small child, and the formal rules of etiquette can be bent a little. But still to call and ask for a response is not polite. You might consider emailing a "reminder" note to those guests from whom you've not heard. Not a reminder that they've not sent their R.S.V.P., but rather a reminder for the party. This is not a request for a response on attendance, simply an addition to the invitation. That would be entirely correct.

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