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but THROUGH WHOM i know a few people whom i would really like to invite?
Also, if i don't invite this unresponsive person, morally i am also obliged to NOT inviting his friends, whom i met though him and would like to know them better?
also, please keep in mind i don't want to appear like a pushy sleazeball and keep pushing when a person is clearly not interested in being friends.
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I would not invite them. If they are no longer replying to your e-mails it sounds like they are no longer interested in being freinds and are trying to distance themselves from you, to cut you out of their life. I'd doubt they'd want to attend your birthday party anyway.
I would not invite them. If they are no longer replying to your e-mails it sounds like they are no longer interested in being freinds and are trying to distance themselves from you, to cut you out of their life. I'd doubt they'd want to attend your birthday party anyway.
How do I deal with a friend who is developing a crush because I gave gifts for her birthday?
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And is it too much to give a friend of a couple years a bday gift? I've had some male friends think this way. I used to think I gave gifts early into a relationship. Maybe I was looking to please people. But I have changed--I'm generous but I'm not attached to what I give to people. It's usually for birthdays. Recently a female friend started crushing on me (I'm straight), and thinks because I gave her birthday gifts--simple ones, like wine, candles, soap--that I must like her. Are these people who aren't used to getting gifts misconstruing that gesture as "love interest"? I am a generous person. A lot of my friends don't even bring gifts to bday parties. Should I just stick to giving a card to avoid needy people like this? Even my birthday card, this girl was hanging on to my every word. It was pretty generic what I wrote and I wrote "Love, (my name)".
She admitted she has a crush on me. Her behavior made me uncomfortable. I tried not seeing her for a while to diffuse her feelings, but I felt I had to at least attend her bday party. I gave a card and mentioned I bought a gift but I forgot it in the car. The rest of the evening was uncomfortable because her feelings started acting up again.
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I agree with June. How do you know she has a crush on you?
Whether she has a crush on you or simply likes you as a friend, you need to be aware that it is perfectly normal for people to think you like them if you give them birthday gifts.
It is not "needy" to want to be friends with someone who has given a gift because gifts show friendship. You may not see gifts this way, but pretty much everyone else does.
In answer to your question, I wouldn't even give a card in future if you don't want to be friends with a person.
Finally, if it turns out this woman DOES have a crush on you, then be compassionate. Say you're straight. Don't make a big deal out of it. Step back--at least temporarily--to give her an opportunity to get over her feelings. Good luck.
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Now I understand...
Well, you did nothing wrong by going to the party. It isn't the gift that is the problem here. It is that she is not over her crush on you. So I'd step back again.
This kind of thing is annoying and difficult to handle. Although I believe in being compassionate and relaxed when dealing with unwanted crushes, I also think that she crossed a line if she approached you while knowing that you're straight. I'm not saying she is crazy or that you should worry... Just that she may have trouble with boundaries and you should take extra care.
I would avoid doing anything that could be construed by her as a sign that you return her feelings. Don't accept her invitations to anything. If you do find yourself at an event that she's at, focus on other people. Not to be mean, but to avoid giving her any hope.
If she approaches you again, say briefly (so the message gets through) and calmly, "I'm straight. I'm sorry, but I'm not interested."
Let's hope she meets someone else soon. If any of her friends already know about this situation (don't tell anyone if they don't know because this might humiliate her), encourage them to take her out to meet other people.
I agree with June. How do you know she has a crush on you?
Whether she has a crush on you or simply likes you as a friend, you need to be aware that it is perfectly normal for people to think you like them if you give them birthday gifts.
It is not "needy" to want to be friends with someone who has given a gift because gifts show friendship. You may not see gifts this way, but pretty much everyone else does.
In answer to your question, I wouldn't even give a card in future if you don't want to be friends with a person.
Finally, if it turns out this woman DOES have a crush on you, then be compassionate. Say you're straight. Don't make a big deal out of it. Step back--at least temporarily--to give her an opportunity to get over her feelings. Good luck.
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Now I understand...
Well, you did nothing wrong by going to the party. It isn't the gift that is the problem here. It is that she is not over her crush on you. So I'd step back again.
This kind of thing is annoying and difficult to handle. Although I believe in being compassionate and relaxed when dealing with unwanted crushes, I also think that she crossed a line if she approached you while knowing that you're straight. I'm not saying she is crazy or that you should worry... Just that she may have trouble with boundaries and you should take extra care.
I would avoid doing anything that could be construed by her as a sign that you return her feelings. Don't accept her invitations to anything. If you do find yourself at an event that she's at, focus on other people. Not to be mean, but to avoid giving her any hope.
If she approaches you again, say briefly (so the message gets through) and calmly, "I'm straight. I'm sorry, but I'm not interested."
Let's hope she meets someone else soon. If any of her friends already know about this situation (don't tell anyone if they don't know because this might humiliate her), encourage them to take her out to meet other people.
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