What would you do - step children christmas drama (adults only)?

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Please if u re younger than 25 do not answer my question.
My husband is in his 50. We have been married for 9 years, second marriages. He has 2 daughters from the previous marriage, they are in their 20 to late 20, they live in own apartments, study and work. I have my children who live with us, they are still teens. My husband started his relationship with his daughters and me on the wrong foot: he did not introduce us to each other from the very beginning, when we were dating and then living together. He was meeting with them in restaurants without me. The first time I met them was when he bought us a house and we moved into it which was after 2 years after we met.Then they started visiting us frequently (not very often thou).
Then once of a sudden, I think it was last year, they decided they did not want to come anymore. I swear there was absolutely no drama whatsoever - neither me nor my husband have facebook account or any other public sharing information account, we have no mutual friends, so there were no gossips from me, neither I ever gave them any advices or criticized them or their mother. They were coming, eating, drinking, I was talking to them about all kind of crap which was absolutely of no interest for me just for the sake of my husband - I know he loves them and was happy to see them.
So then once of a sudden, when it was his birthday, they invited him WITHOUT ME to one of their apartment to celebrate his birthday, instead of accepting his invitation for the birthday party at our house. I was very angry, I said it was unheard of and what the fck was wrong with them (I said it only to him, not to them of course). I was very angry and asked him what if there will be a wedding? or a child will be born of one of them? What then? Will I be excluded as well? After that he cancelled their party at their apartment and invited them to our house AGAIN. They informed they were working and could not attend. It was in summer. Then I did not hear anything about them (believe me I do not miss their company). Then yesterday he told me "I decided to invite my children for Christmas" I said "Fine". Today I inquired what day exactly they were going to come and he said they weren't coming. I asked why and he answered they did not want to. That was it. I know he misses them and he loves them, he never tells me anything or shows anything, but I know he is upset. How can these spoiled b1tches do such a thing fails my understanding.
So finally my question:
What the heck is wrong with them? Why would they do such a thing and what would you do? Start meeting with them on the side, put your foot down and keep it down? And what should I do? Pretend nothing is happening? I really do not miss them and I do not care whether they are dead or alive, but I know he misses them and my heart aches for him. And by their behavior they are hurting him, not me. If it were you would you talk to him about it? Or pretend everything is normal? I am very bewildered. And please do not advice any counselling - we are working people and we have nor time neither money to spare.

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what a story! my husband also has chuldren from previous marriage, i hate their guts. always hugging him and showing their affection in front of me. i am his wife for pete's sake, i don't do that in front of them. anywho i suggest u be loving, soft, kind wife to him, surround him with love. u can not control those spoiled brats, neither can he. they want to show who is in charge - them. i say he should keep his foot down. but then i am thinking what if it were my children? what would i do? would i choose not to meet them because of him if they did not want to meet with him? i hope i will not need to make such a sofy's choice. but from the point of view of a step mother - the hell with them. In my language they say: when an old woman steps off the vagon it is easier for the horse to run. so happy christmas! 2 women are off your vagon

what is an exiting, interesting and grabbing opening line for a 18th Birthday invitation?

Chrissy

I am sending out my 18th birthday invitations but i want an unusual and cool opening line!!! it is a sex and the city themed party with black and White colours !!!!! I really want the invitation to be creative and make people want to come to the party. anyone have any ideas?????

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"Legal and Alive to celebrate it" or
"Not black or white, black AND white! Come and help MJ celebrate 18 and me" (theme would include Michael Jackson).

Another idea: if you write a 1 and an 8 sideways it looks like the infinity sign lying on a bed. Maybe then you can do something with numbers in the theme.

Get people to bring "Happy 18th birthday" written in another language on the invitation. Leave a space on there for them to get it written in. Then have a prize for the language that is the most unusual or whatever....

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